The nice guy/nice girl persona is one hell of a prison construct.

People pleasing is actually vampiric energy. We want to please in order to get a hit of validation and a feeling that we are liked and good enough.

It makes us completely dependent on the external. We hope others see us a certain way, we hope people think we live an awesome life or that we’re valuable because of something we have or appear to have. We hope the image convinces people that we are somehow enough and that they will stick around and meet our constant need for validation. We think that once we have X number of followers, this much money or this much attention and approval we will finally be happy…

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